Why we assume the worst
Let’s talk about catastrophizing.
Catastrophizing is where we jump to the worst possible scenario when we’re uncertain about a situation in at work or life.
And let’s face it - if you’re human - you’ve probably at some point done this.
If this is something you tend to do the first thing I want you to do to practice some self-compassion for yourself.
This is your brain and body’s way of protecting you from harm, shock or disappointment, and maybe it’s a pattern that you’ve picked up along the way in your life. And while your brain and body’s intentions are “good”, catastrophizing can be really detrimental both short term and long term for both you and for people around you.
So if and when you find yourself going into catastrophe mode…here’s what I recommend:
Stabilize. Your nervous system is likely heightened right now. Take a few moments to breathe and restore equilibrium in your body.
Acknowledge what you’re feeling right now. Maybe write down the fears that are coming up for you. The worst case scenario that you’re worried about. Listen to fears and support yourself the way you would a loved one or small child.
Explore possible positive or neutral outcomes: Right now your mind is going to worst case scenario, so we need to strengthen our resilience muscle by exploring the other side of the coin.Write down a list of all the positive or neutral outcomes could come of this situation?
Surrender: we cannot control everything or everyone around us, and worrying about something that hasn’t happened means you suffer twice. Practice letting go and focusing on what is factual, what is true and what you can control right now.
Sending positive, calming thoughts as I write this for anyone who needs it today! x
